I like your spirit here. But being a middle-aged married man myself, I don't agree. :)

Life is more than just a search for "the one" and trying to get laid. I don't believe in "the one" in the first place. And life is more than just a search for that and then you die. It's a journey with twists and turns and ups and downs, and, certainly, loans!

Personally, I find motivation within myself to keep leaning and growing on my own. Otherwise I may as well just get in the casket.